In this video, I’m going to pull out some of the key inner game strategies from Mel Robbins’ book – Take Control of Your Life. These are strategies from the book that resonated with me, and I feel may help you to win the mental game as well. Stay tuned.
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Take Control of Your Life – 3 Key Mindset Takeaways – Video Transcript
Hi, I’m Sara Nguyen, and I help awesome entrepreneurs like yourself with tech, social media, and a little bit of motivation sometimes. One of the ideas in the book Take Control of Your Life is when it comes to achieving your goals and having the life that you want if any area isn’t working, it’s because there’s fear and fear is winning.
You can either let fear trigger you and stop you from getting what you want, or you can learn how to move forward and accomplish the things you want to do. Take Control of Your Life is a gold mine and I’m going to cover 3 inner game takeaways from the book.
Typically when you hear about imposter syndrome, it’s the fear that people will find out that you don’t know what you’re doing. If you’re new to something and you’re learning, imposter syndrome may appear and make you feel like a fraud.
But if you keep showing up, you’re going to develop the skills and find your footing, and soon enough you won’t feel like an imposter, but you’ll feel like an old pro. Imposter syndrome is completely normal, and it’s a sign that you’re pushing past your comfort zone.
I know a lot of people who start their own businesses and are fraught with this fear. I felt it myself in the early days of starting my business. But imposter syndrome isn’t just when you’re trying something new, and you feel like a fraud.
It’s also when you feel like an imposter in your own life. When you’ve changed, but there is still something inside of you that holds onto the old you. It can happen if you’ve grown and changed. Whether it’s physical changes because you’ve lost a lot of weight or changed the way you look, or emotional growth from leaving old bad habits.
Imposter syndrome is real, and it’s a thing, and it happens when you haven’t fully embraced who you have become. And the way to overcome imposter syndrome leads to my take away number two:
Owning Your Story.
When you tell your story in a way that empowers you, it allows you to take control of the way your mind views things. You can take ownership of it regardless of what happened in the past.
Don’t be ashamed and embarrassed of your life. Be in awe of your story, even the stuff you’re not proud of, even your failings. When you tell and own your story, it allows you to close the chapter and step into the next chapter that you’re in now. You also take away the power of judgment from everybody because you’ve put it out there honestly.
About 10 years ago, I went into a business partnership with three other business owners, put out a lot of money, time and energy into that business. I ended up walking away from the business because it was bleeding and there were a lot of problems.
I felt like we were just burning money, and I made the decision to walk away. It hurt a lot to walk away, but it was the right thing for me to do.
And for a long time, I also felt ashamed about the business venture. But when I flipped the script about the story, and I owned it – that yes, I had a business failure, but I tried.
I gave it everything that I had, and it didn’t work out, but I bounced back from that low. When you own your story, you diminish the power of fear in your head, and you take back control.
Your past doesn’t dictate who you are now and who you are becoming. All of the change that you experienced came from you, and you need to own that.
Your fate is not fixed.
A lot of people operate from a fixed mindset. They believe their skills and talents are fixed traits, and therefore, they can’t change. And when they fail, their self-esteem plummets because they think they’ve tapped out of their skills.
The opposite of a fixed mindset is a growth mindset. With a growth mindset, people have an underlying belief that their talents can grow with time and experience. What matters is the effort that you put in, and you are completely in control of that.
Anyone can build a growth mindset. It’s about becoming aware of the fixed mindset voices in your head. These are thoughts like, “I’m not any good at this”, “What happens if I fail?”, “I can’t do it perfectly so I shouldn’t even try.”, “People will laugh at me for thinking I can do this”.
Notice when these thoughts come up, and then realise that you have a choice in whether you listen to these thoughts. You can put the negative glasses on and quit, or you can say things to yourself like, “This didn’t work out this time. It’s time to try a new strategy”.
If you change your response to fear, you will have more control of your life. If you found this video useful, give me a thumbs up and don’t forget to subscribe to my channel. And if you’re looking to overcome your fears and grow your business, check out my Social Media Checklist.
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